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March 7, 2006

On Forgiveness…

Filed under: News — chantal @ 11:56 pm

“Forgiveness is love in its most noble form.” -Anonymous

Why is forgiveness so difficult to come by? I once heard it said that to truly forgive someone is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. It’s an act of freeing yourself of anger and pain.

To ‘forgive and forget”…is it really possible? Not the ‘forget’ part, but why are we sometimes still punished for sins of the past? How long do we have to be punished for past mistakes? And if we continue to be punished for past sins, how can we truly grow?

“To err is human; to forgive, divine.” Alexander Pope

From a spiritual standpoint, (in any major religion) forgiveness is the key to God’s heart. God commands us to forgive, as he has forgiven us. And yet we find it so hard to let things go. We torture ourselves by holding on to past hurts. And we torture our loved ones by continuing to punish them for something they have done to hurt us.

But is it possible to just ‘let things go”? The damage has already been done. Our eyes have been opened and we see what a loved one is capable of doing to hurt us. How do you move on from that?

Well, to do so, you must believe in a person’s ability to change. Once the person who has hurt you has sincerely shown remorse and apologized; once enough time has past to allow the immediate sting to subside, we must allow for personal growth and the ability for a person to change. The key to this is the offender’s willingness to change. That’s not to say that mistakes will be made again….change is a process. And depending on the offense, certain changes take time to adhere, new habits need to be formed.

In the end, change is possible. You can’t force a person to change, but if they are willing to do so, it can be done. And for some, the biggest and most challenging change is the act of forgiving.


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